This Fall Ben needs to refresh his wardrobe in a big way. I’m so proud of my man! In the Spring, Ben made a commitment to start eating well and exercising regularly. He stuck to his plan like a true sport and has gone down in dress size to the point where his pants hang loose and baggy.
Fortunately we need to look no further than Mark’s to find a great fit and a wide variety of jeans including brands like Silver, Buffalo and Levi’s. Because Ben works in tech and is on his knees a lot he needs a relaxed fit for comfort while on the job. On date nights he prefers a slim, more structured fit suitable for casual dining, or going for leisurely strolls along the sea wall. Mark’s has tons of styles and washes to choose from; keeping Ben covered for any type of denim wearing day.
Do you remember your first job? Of course! You were probably a teenager just like me who wanted to earn some extra spending money for Starbucks and shopping at the Gap.
Ironically my first regular employment was in one of the few clothing stores at the time that grown men would shop in with a little swagger to their step. I was a scrawny 15-year-old girl trying to sell either steel-toed boots to big, scruffy men or front-pleated pants to clean-cut, male office workers. At the time the store was called Mark’s Work Wearhouse (now just Marks) but don’t let the masculine name deceive you; they also sell a selection of female apparel.
Our culture tends to mock monogamy like it’s a self-imposed prison sentence for life. As a suck for pop culture (It’s my bread and butter) I’m inundated with celebrity quotes and quibs, song lyrics and psych assessments about our ability as humans to remain faithful to one person. Ben Caplan in his version of the famous song 40 Days and 40 Nights sings,
“That any man is a liar who says he desires
To be with one woman the rest of his days”
I think any man (or woman) is a liar who states this but you got to keep reading to understand why.
Today I was downtown to celebrate the Ted Baker store opening in Pacific Centre. I’ll tell you more about the store later this week but for now it’s sufficient to say Ted Baker has feminine florals down to a T.
After the event I popped by Ben’s office for a coffee date. We grabbed our cup of joe and headed to the rooftop for a bird’s eye view of the city. One of Ben’s co-workers has a whole Bonsai Tree farm going on up there! How romantic is it to sit in lawn chairs, holding hands, sipping coffee and enjoying a spectacular view of our favourite city?
In Ben’s words Saturday was, “heavenly” and swimming in the ocean was like swirling around in a “warm cup of coffee.” I love how he tells me the first thing that comes to his mind when I ask him how he would describe our day.
This was the outfit I wore from sun up to sun down while watering the garden, cleaning, to the beach with the boys and extended family and picnicking in our backyard. Denim shorts are a no brainer for the summer and these ones have lasted me through many. I think I bought them at H&M five years ago…
Yesterday was Ben’s birthday and we had a dear friend volunteer to babysit the boys while we went on a date. I can’t tell you how special it is to have friends who anticipate your needs before you have to ask. If you’re ever wondering how to bless friends who are parents: babysit.
Good sex is like exercise it involves training and breaking a sweat.
Good sex grows like your garden, slow and steady. We don’t expect a tiny seed once it’s planted to pop up instantly into a giant oak tree.
Good sex isn’t buying a fully restored vintage car. It’s building one from the ground up and having the satisfaction of all the hard work put into making it run like a dream.
Good sex doesn’t come from using sex as a weapon to get what you want. Sex is part of the tool kit for building a healthy relationship.
Good sex doesn’t come from not talking about sex.
Sorry for my absence this week. If only I had a team of writers…(dream). Ben and I were away on a much needed, child-free holiday in Tofino for three days. It was a glorious time. If you follow me on Instagram you know I was having fun sporting my father-in-law’s suede, fringe coat which was given to him when he was in 8th grade. Ben at first was mildly horrified/embarrassed by my fashion choice but adjusted quickly to my flying, flapping fringe.
After seven and a half years of marriage and three kids, Ben and I cherish the things in our relationship that extend beyond receiving material gifts from each other. Not to say that we don’t like presents (I mean c’mon) but when it comes to Christmas we reserve one another for a date night out